I was going to blog about something completely different. I already had the draft and everything but something occurred this morning that changed my mind.
Now I have this young looking face. I hated it before but now? Dang! I like to call myself the fountain of youth. A lot. I have been teased, ridiculed(those days when my self esteem was at an all time low) and you know, laughed at. Let’s not even go into the fact that I have a high pitched voice (getting adjusted to that).
So it’s a typical Sunday morning. I’m texting with someone strictly to get some information. I don’t know him, he doesn’t know me. Then because he asked, I tell him I’m a final year law student. He texts an emoji+k and I ask what that emoji means. He replies in what I only hope is not the sort of English he writes with in reality. That he’s looking at me and I’m too young.
Now this is not the first time I’ve heard this and it definitely won’t be the last. A lethal combination of my age and facial looks is enough ammo to make that assertion. But this is what made me laugh after being pissed for like ten seconds. We have never met, either physically or spiritually. I don’t even know your name and vice versa. What you saw was a filtered picture on my profile that was from my torso upwards. Then you made a conclusion about how young I should am to be in the current class that I’m in?
This usually happens when someone sees me in reality or knows my age. It’s gotten to the point that it’s really boring and I don’t say it anymore. You see, life is full of paradoxes. The older ones could be shorter than the rest. The younger ones have a height span of…well a lot of feet and inches. The ones with fair skin are not always fragile (this is another I face constantly. Lord help this world).
Why do we judge people by what we see? We see someone or hear something and bam! Judges appear everywhere. Why do we assume? Why do we conclude without all the facts? Assumptions are deadly for heaven’s sake. This isn’t even about judgments based on rumors spun by people with no ambition but this is based on what you had no control over. What God blessed you with. How you look and who you are.
Assumptions and irrelevant conclusions are never going to stop. Some of us are that jobless. But you know what can stop? Listening or caring even an iota of what they assume. A friend said that someone said she’s too young be a youth corper. I told her to tell the person that’s great. That means she won’t get wrinkles as fast as the person would.
A lot of us love to talk. If there’s nothing to talk about, we make stuff up to talk about. That’s all fine and good. When someone does that to me, I just take the sense out of it. If there’s no sense, what a shame. A lot of air was expunged for no reason. What a waste.
This post has so many layers which I would love us to explore. We’re even judged for being old. What is old anyway? We’ll look at that in the next post.
Till next time. Keep musing.